Updated: Jan 5, 2020
Habit; A settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up.
If you're anything like me your habits probably look like a few of the icons in the graphic above. Waking up, brushing your teeth, maybe looking at your phone or eating some breakfast to start the day. Hopefully getting a workout in, heading to work, and then catching your favorite show on your favorite streaming service over dinner at the end of the day.
Every day looks the same.
But wait, are there any habits you might need to reset? That breakfast I mentioned, are you eating breakfast? If so, what does it consist of? How many hours a day are you actually staring at your phone or browsing Netflix? Are you snacking throughout the day? Are you sitting for 8 hours strait at work?
At this point, these may be mindless habits but in the beginning they were conscious choices that we once made. There's a quote somewhere that says something like "It takes 21days to make a habit." But then how long can it take to break the habit? Especially habits we've had over multiple years of our lives?
Identifying Toxic Habits
#SelfLove is the new buzzword these days. I imagine a lot of people will be against New Years resolutions and call it "loving themselves as they are". Which is 100% fine and great if you really are loving yourself... But are toxic habits and unhealthy behaviors really self love?
Is refusing to take a look at your mental and physical health really self love? Is letting yourself spiral deeper into over consumption of unhealthy foods really self love? Is accepting that "this bad habit is just the way I am" REALLY SELF LOVE?
If you're being honest with yourself, YOU and I both know that these above examples are not self love, BUT they are also not things we should be ashamed of. Once identified, we should aim to reset/rebuild our habits for the better.
The Habit Reset
I stumbled upon this cute little graphic that perfectly and simply outlines how to reset your habits!
Now, your habit that needs resetting may not be in this example but you can still use the steps to reset any habit. Let's take break it down.
1. Habit I want to change:
- This one's easy, just list the habit you know is toxic/unhealthy for your current lifestyle and/or goals.
2. What it gives me:
- Why do you perform this behavior? Is it because it makes you feel a certain way? Do you see it as a reward at the end of a long day?
3. What I can replace it with:
- This might be the hardest one to answer. It piggybacks off of your answer to question #2. You'll have to come up with something that gives you a similar or better result.
4. So I will:
- How will you allow yourself to perform the new behavior? What can you do to reduce the chance that you will relapse back into the old habit?
Keep in mind that resetting your habit(s) will NOT be EASY and it will not happen overnight. Be patient with yourself and remember that new things take time and there is a process to change.